It is hard to see a once fully independent parent fail or lose abilities. Sometimes we don’t see it until it’s too late! Accepting these changes often means you need to take action. But how do you know when the situation is serious?
Here is a short list of “Red Flags” that tells you it is time to bring in an “expert” to give you some direction on how to help your parents.
- Personal care is not what it used to be. Hair is not combed, men have not shaved, clothing is not clean, and you see evidence that showers and baths are not being taken.
- Safety is a concern. Food items are old in the refrigerator, pots are burnt, and the doors are left unlocked.
- Memory is failing. They can’t seem to keep appointments or remember the last time they talked to you, even if it was earlier that very day.
- They start trusting someone you don’t know. They have a “stranger” help them with banking or other personal matters. You worry about their judgment, as they tell you how wonderful this new friend is.
- You notice weight loss and limited fresh groceries in the home. The home might be neat, but it looks like they are not using the kitchen to cook. You might only find one or two types of foods, like frozen meals and coffee, in their home.
Professional Care Managers are Life Care Experts and they can help you assess Mom or Dad, and give you ideas of how to keep them safe in their home or find other housing options. There are different ways in case your parent may need help.
Often a more comprehensive medical assessment is needed to determine capacity. Whether you live in town or at a distance, these “red-flags” warrant an “expert” to guide you and preserve dignity at the same time as giving family “Peace of Mind.”
Call our Experts-on-Call line at 888-585-7579 for more information.